As someone who has their life together, you want someone who brings equal value to your life.
After enough disappointing dates you might find yourself craving a partner who is more challenging, more evolved, and more your type of people.
Some of your friends tell you that you are being too picky, but you just have different standards than they do.
By following these simple tips, you should be able to get around, meet, and attract high value women with ease.
What To Look For In Their Personality
If you don’t know what you’re looking for, then you’ll never know when you’ve found it.
For simplicity’s sake, I will define a high value woman as someone who is in good shape, comes across as friendly and approachable in all social situations, has their financial life sorted out and doesn’t need a man to support her, and has a sense of adventure and curiosity about the world.
Basically a high value woman (just like any high value person) is someone who is intentional about getting the most from life.
Do you have this kind of person clearly visualized in your mind? Great. Hold on to that mental image.
Tips On Where To Find High Value Women
When you want to find your kind of people, the best overarching advice is to live the kind of life that makes you the happiest version of yourself possible and you will attract the kind of people that are already aligned with your best self.
We attract what we are. If you want someone who is active, nurturing, and financially independent, then you must first go and do things that make you active, self-nurturing, etc.
But if you’re looking for some specific examples, you are in luck.
Here are some road-tested examples of places to consistently meet high value women.
1. Where to Meet Active Women
Attractive character traits: fit, determined, motivated.
a. Indoor Rock Climbing
Indoor rock climbers tend to have toned bodies, strategic minds, and they thrive on adrenaline.
Ask if they need someone to belay for them, or challenge them to a bouldering duel (even if you’re not that good it’ll still be an ice breaker).
b. Mountain Hiking
If you want a partner who has cardiovascular endurance and an appreciation for natural beauty, you’ll find the jackpot in a hiker.
Carry extra water, snacks, bug spray, and sunscreen in your day pack just in case you can help out your future partner with any common hiking related inconveniences. If they’re just as prepared as you are, you can always offer to take a photo of them and send it to them.
Women very rarely want to be hit on when they’re at the gym. They’re sweaty, they’re trying to focus, they usually don’t have make up on, and their headphones are in for a reason.
But that doesn’t mean that the gym isn’t an amazing place to meet high quality women. You just have to go about it differently than most men do.
Become a regular, and gain trust and rapport with your dream woman over the course of a few weeks (start small by saying ‘Hi’ and having a friendly vibe, and escalate to conversation after a week or two).
Don’t rush the connection with high value women in the gym. Because you can reliably assume that you’ll be seeing her a few times per week for the next few months time is on your side. Easy does it.
2. Where to Meet Socially Competent Go-Getters
Attractive character traits: hard working, ambitious, socially intelligent.
a. Improv class
Want a partner who is willing to push her comfort zones and is willing to laugh at herself when times get tough? Try dropping into a few improv classes.
You’ll become more funny, socially competent, flexible, and confident in the process. Some of the most intelligent women I’ve ever met I met through drop-in improv classes. You’d be surprised at the calibre of people that choose to challenge themselves in front of a group of strangers for two hours.
b. Networking events
Networking events can be hit or miss so make sure you’re paying attention to the quality of the attendees before you attend. That being said, just like in real life, for every twenty duds you have to work your way through you’ll find someone who blows you away.
c. Property investment seminars
If you want to be in a room of people who have their financial lives handled, check out a weekend-long property investment seminar where the ticket price is over $3,000 to attend.
Just make sure that your conversation starter isn’t about the event or their personal investment portfolio. You don’t want to come across as a gold digger.
Instead, start a conversational thread with something you observed. For example, “You were so focused when you were taking notes during the last speaker. It looked like you were peering into his soul!”
3. Where to Meet Self-Development Junkies
Attractive character traits: self-aware, independent, high moral code.
a. Book Stores
The best part about finding romantic partners in book stores is that they categorize themselves. Want someone who is into naturopathic medicine? Go to the health section. Want someone who is a good cook (or at least is trying to be one)? Go to the food section. You get the drill.
As always, approach women in a selective and calibrated way. Strike up a conversation with someone as you are already searching for books. Don’t just go to the book store in order to approach multiple women. It’s low-value and they will pick up on your intention before you even open your mouth.
b. Self-Development Conferences
One of the most obvious ways to find a woman who is into living a high-value and intentional life is to go straight to the training grounds of intentional people… self-development seminars.
Whether or not you have been to one before, check out a Tony Robbins event in a city near you. While a decent percentage of the people will likely be Kool-Aid pounding weirdos, you’ll find a few high-quality diamonds in the rough.
c. Coffee Shop With Journal or Book In Hand
If you want to find a partner who is highly self-aware and curious about the world, scan your local coffee shops/parks/restaurants for women who are either reading self-development books or who are writing in a personal journal.
Every partner I’ve ever dated who kept an active journal was a highly self-sufficient and self-aware person. Understandably, this pays dividends in the context of an intimate relationship.
4. Where to Meet Spiritual Women
Attractive character traits: calm, emotionally intuitive, forgiving.
a. Breathwork Classes
If you have yet to go to a breath work class then you’re missing out (and not just for the potential partner finding).
Breathwork reduces stress and anxiety, boosts energy and mood, and helps you sleep better. Not only that, you can find a plethora of high value women that are spiritual but aren’t necessarily as plugged in to the cult of hot yoga (my L.A. and Vancouver readers know what I’m talking about).
Being mindful of the fact that she might not want to be chatted up, make eye contact in a friendly way after class. If she seems receptive and she reciprocates your attempts at conversation then ask her to join you for a coconut water or smoothie nearby.
The benefits to women who follow the cult of yoga are so obvious that they don’t even need to be listed. If you’ve seen a present, conscious woman in yoga pants, you don’t need any convincing as to why this is a good idea to meet women before or after a class.
c. Silent Meditation Retreats
For the truly introspective and those who are serious about getting clarity in their life’s path and purpose, check out a ten day silent retreat (commonly referred to as a vipassana). Similarly to the breath work class, you’ll want to make your introductions before or after the retreat.
Think it can’t be done? I have a client who met his wife at a vipassana retreat (and they recently celebrated their six year anniversary).
5. Where to Meet Feminine Women
Attractive character traits: nurturing, loving, supportive.
a. Salsa Dance Events
If you would describe your ideal woman as a “spitfire” or “a troublemaker” then salsa nights are one of your best bets for finding your future significant other.
Learn a few basic steps ahead of time (via YouTube or by taking private lessons) and go to the event solo. You’ll be surprised how open and relaxed some of the women are… plus you get to touch them!!! It’s like grade school all over again… but better.
b. Cooking Classes
Similar to the culinarily inclined women that you met in the book store, the attendees of cooking classes are putting their money where their mouth is and trying their hand at a few new recipes.
The classes are often reasonably priced, uber-educational, and you can even go to singles-only cooking classes where the point of the event is to meet new romantic partners. Delicious!
c. Acting Classes
I personally attended a week long acting workshop (as the only non-actor out of about 100 people) last year and was blown away by the sheer amount of feminine energy in a single room.
We spent the week talking about our feelings, diving deep into our emotional patterns and processes, and letting go of past trauma that was holding us back from being our true selves.
I left the event with a newfound appreciation for actors, a feeling of overall emotional contentment, and seven phone numbers from amazing, high value women. Remember, be the change that you wish to see in your life and you will attract even more of it than you can handle.
How To Meet High Value Women
Ultimately, the world will only let us have what we are ready for. If you are still emotionally underdeveloped or have a deep rooted fear of intimacy, then you might find it difficult to connect with high value women (no matter where you find them).
While more than 90% of attracting a high value partner is about building up your own internal self-love and sense of self-worth, at a certain point you have to be intentional about finding the partner you are aching to connect with.
Let me know if you need any help with this process.
Dedicated to your success,